19 Things I’ve Learned in My 19 Years of Life

I feel like I’ve been through a lot lately, and in my last two years of adult life, I have experienced more life lessons, and more life in general than I had ever previously thought I would. I am by no means an experienced adult, or an expert in life, but I feel like I’ve learned a lot of lessons in my 19 years of life that are valuable to enjoying a life worth living. I’ve had my worst days, felt like I had hit rock bottom, and have continued on to now be happier than I have been in years. So, without further adieu, here are 19 lessons from my 19 years of life.


  1. Take risks. What is life without a little danger? Obviously, taking risks doesn’t mean breaking the law. But say yes to things that might scare you. Want to skydive? Do it. Want to take a trip across the world by yourself? Do it. You only have one life. Live your best one.
  2. Love yourself. For real, this is so important and has taken me awhile to learn. I am someone who believes I should constantly be putting other people’s feelings before my own, and sacrificing my own happiness to boost theirs. This will only tear you down and make you unhappy. Love yourself and take care of yourself. Put your own happiness first.
  3. Say no. Seriously. It’s okay to say no sometimes. If you feel like you are being pressured to do something you’re not interested in, just say no. If they’re your real friends, you won’t ever feel bad for saying no. Even if it’s something as simple as hanging out or going out and you don’t want to, just say no. Take care of yourself first. On the other hand..
  4. Say yes. Life isn’t so serious all the time. Say yes to being silly and happy. Say yes to something that might scare you. Say yes to things that will make you a happier better person. Take a chance. Say yes.
  5. Drink water. Drink so much water. Nothing is as refreshing as water. Nothing makes your insides feel good like a nice, ice cold glass of water. It’s good for your skin and your health. So drink some water.
  6. Smile at people. This world is so serious, and so unhappy, when you smile at others, or share your happiness, you really could be changing someone’s day/week/life. Instead of spreading unhappiness, spread kindness and joy.
  7. Take in the world around you. This is a tough one for me. But sometimes you have to put your phone down and just enjoy all the beauty around you. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve just looked around me and been completely dumbfounded by how amazing this world is.
  8. Say I love you. To everyone possible. Your friends, family, anyone you care about, let them know you care. You have no idea how far a few simple words can take you, or how good they can make someone feel. Let people know they are loved always. Use those words often, when you love others, sometimes it’s easier to love your own self.
  9. Throw fear out the window. I’ve already written an article about this so I’ll keep it short. But do things that scare you and excite you. Life is much more fun that way.
  10. Jam out in your car with the music blasting. This is literally one of my favorite things to do. I love to scream/sing lyrics as loud as possible and let the music overwhelm my senses. So if you feel the need to blast your music and just sing at the top of your lungs, DO IT!
  11. It”s okay to be sad. You don’t have to be happy every single day all the time no matter what. Be sad when you want to be sad. Be upset and frustrated. You’re human and you have emotions. Let them happen. Cry when you need to. It’s really okay.
  12. Dance your heart out. Wherever you are, no matter what, when you wanna dance, or do anything, do it with all your heart. Dance like a fool, and put your heart into the things you care about. Have some passion!
  13. Take a moment/ make a moment for yourself. Even if it’s only 1 minute. Take a moment of quiet to just sit and think and not do anything else. This is SO important. Make time for yourself, and just breathe.
  14. Laugh out loud at stupid things. Just laugh out loud period. People say that laughter is the best medicine. I would probably agree. Just laugh! Don’t hold back. Let yourself be completely silly and happy.
  15. Listen to your parents.. Most of the time. I’ve come to realize, regrettably, that my parents, and most parents are usually right. It’s taken me 19 years, but I’ve come to accept that my mom just knows what she’s talking about when she says not to be friends with a certain person, or when my dad says I should be careful around a certain boy. They just have this weird parental intuition, and they’re usually pretty right.
  16. Make hard decisions. The hardest decision I’ve made recently, was to end my relationship. It was incredibly difficult, and will affect me now and forever, but I know it was the right decision. It was hard, and I was very sad, and I didn’t think I was going to make it for a while. But I did and I’m happy and healthy, and even though it was hard and it totally sucked, in the end, it’s made me a better person. It may be a hard decision, but it’s probably the right way.
  17. Don’t take the easy way out. Don’t just accept. Don’t stop fighting for what you believe. That’s too easy. Do what’s hard. Push yourself to be better. Don’t just surrender, be tough, be strong. Do the hard thing.
  18. Keep on keeping on. My dad has told me this since I can remember. Keep on keeping on. The sun will come up tomorrow and you will wake up and life will be okay. Keep pushing through and show life who’s the winner. (spoiler: it’s you.)
  19. Remember, at the end of the day, you are THE MOST important person. Your happiness is what matters most, and if that means putting school/work/others on hold in order to be a better, happier person, so be it. You deserve to be happy, and you deserve to live your best life, no matter what.


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