I know what you may be thinking. “You’re too young to know what it’s like to be in love.” And maybe you’re right. I am young. But I like to think I know what it’s like to be IN LOVE with another human. Not the way someone loves a sibling or a close friend, but real, genuine, get married someday and have a family and a life together kind of love.
I promise this isn’t going to be sappy… probably. I have been through my slew of relationships; and dating in my day and age is so.. WEIRD! You can be in the ‘talking’ stage with someone for months, and it still doesn’t mean you’re ‘going steady’ with someone. Everything is confusing and hard and people are too scared to commit to anyone at all..ever.
I feel like I’ve experienced enough from my brief time in the dating world to know a thing or two about dating and love and things of that nature. I’m here to tell you, young or old, girl or boy, that love is out there for you. You may not think so, but I promise it is.
I’ve experienced toxic relationships, relationships that ended poorly, silly flings that meant nothing, and my fair share of heartbreak. This is not meant to slander anyone, but rather to share my idea of love, and my experiences in the dating world.
In high school, I had two serious relationships, and lots of going on dates and finding out what my type was and such. After high school, I dated around a while more, before finding someone that I ended up being in a ten month relationship with. It was fun, and great, but wasn’t healthy, and that relationship had to come to an end too. I’m grateful for that relationship; it taught me that I needed to find myself and focus on loving and taking care of myself. After that, I’ve had a few more flings that have also all come to an end. This has been really frustrating for me, and has lead to my heart feeling broken more than once. I’m a very kind and loving person and I love to love people, and when others don’t have the same intentions, it can lead to a lot of sadness. I’ve been dealing with this for the last few months, and every break up seems to hurt a little bit more than the next. I feel like I lose myself a little bit more every time this happens, and that’s not a good feeling. I’ve talked about self love before. (See: Here ) We all know it’s important; and there’s something so devastating about knowing that in loving someone else, we stop loving ourselves. That’s not what true love is, and that’s a hard lesson for people, including myself, to learn.
So what is true love? I’ve been so overwhelmed with love in my life, I’m truly very grateful. My parents are great examples of love, and the people that I surround myself with are constantly showing me how loved I really am.
Love is singing in the car as loud as you can with your best friend, or making an adventure out of an otherwise bad experience. Love is when you see someone and their face lights up when they see you, and you enjoy every second of the time that is spent together. Love is pure joy, happiness, and feeling like there’s sunshine coming out of you. Love will not make you question yourself, or make you feel bad about yourself.
As much as love should be happy and rainbows and sunshine, it’s not always easy, if something hard arises, fighting for it, and working hard for someone you love is part of what makes love so real. Love is also respecting your partner, with a relationship built off of trust. It is being compassionate and kind, and forgiving when forgiveness is necessary. Love is give and take and seeing past people’s flaws and imperfections. Love is being selfless, and loving when loving isn’t always easy. People say that a relationship should be 50-50, but in reality, it should be 100-100. Love is fair and truthful and doesn’t make you hurt.
For a long time, I’ve been convinced that maybe I just don’t deserve love or that it’s not out there for me. This world can be lonely, and it can be hard to see the love that is out there. I know that real love will make me feel deserving of everything, and I know that real love will make me feel like the queen that I am.
I know that it’s not always easy to see, but love is everywhere, and it’s out there for everyone. I have struggled for a long time, thinking I’ll never find someone out there to love me. Although it’s been hard, and it’s been heartbreaking and exhausting, my search for real love has taught me how to better love myself, and to know what I deserve in my life.
Every person in this world deserves good, real love. It’s out there, and although it’s hard to remember when dealing with sadness and heartbreak, everyone will find love.